Recently, I've been working on a new book currently titled "Dating Myself." I have noticed that many of my friends, near and far, are starting to hit their Quarter Life Crisis and I too often hear things from them that make me very sad. A long time ago, I decided that it wasn't okay for me to not know what I truly wanted. There were so many things that scared me and I refused to spend a better part of my life being afraid of my own shadow.
I love epiphanies.
It is a fact that life is a variable. Things happen that we dont like. Thats not going to change- so why fight it? So- I embraced it. I could've looked at it with the defeatest attitude of "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em" but why join in on something I dont like? So I chose to look at it as "how can I make this work for me?" And in trying to figure out how to make life work for me- I opened the pandora's box that is my own heart and soul. How was I supposed to find contentment in life, in love, in anything if I wasn't content with myself? If you dont like yourself, you sure as hell arent going to like anything that you say or do. What do I want? What can't I live without? What scares me and how do I find I way to cope with that fear? And why focus on the negative and things I cannot change?
My name is Tiffany.
I love that I'm 5'8" not freakishly tall, not a shorty, but quite comfortable!
I wear bright colors and it doesn't come off as obnoxious because it just seems to fit who I am too perfectly.
My eyes are so beautiful. Just really, really beautiful.
I am fiercely loyal and that makes me a better friend.
I am okay with the fact that I talk alot- its because I have a lot to say. If you listen closely, you might just catch a diamond in the rough of our conversations :)
I am photogenic- I rarely take a terrible picture.
I am deeply empathetic. I think that emotion is a God given gift that many people do not have, so I feel incredibly blessed to be so open minded and accepting.
I am intelligent, creative, and talented. A jack of all trades, a master of none but still- it gives me options and I never feel like I'm trapped in a box of only being good at one thing.
I am beautiful. No matter what color my hair is, how much or how little make-up I am wearing, no matter how much weight I lose or gain- I know that I may not always be happy with my body but I am a gorgeous woman and I will never have a reason to hate the way I look.
I am Tiffany. I am a very jealous person. I am impulsive. I am not very good at adjusting the volume of my voice- it seems to be stuck at loud. I am incredibly impatient. My DNA has cursed me with fugly legs, no ass, a spare tire, no chin, and the ability to acquire stretch marks inhumanly fast for no reason at all (maybe I just sneezed too hard, who knows).
Look at those lists. The not so great things about me is much shorter than the wonderful things about me. The sucky things are really no big deal. I can work at being more patient and less jealous. The things I dislike about my body are easily offset by the great things (I choose to highlight my nice rack and beautiful eyes and camoflauge my knees and belly... now my flaws are no longer noticeable --- TADA! FIXED!)
Look. NO WOMAN can buy something off the rack and it fit just perfectly, so dont think you're the only person that has to try on 100 pairs of jeans before finding a pair that is satisfactory after a few alterations. There is no such thing as a perfect bra, a perfect high heel, a perfect denim, a perfect blouse, or a perfect person. Get over it!
I encourage everyone to make two lists, one of all the great things about you and one of all the things you dont like about you. At first- the negative may outweigh the positives. But why would you want to live that way? If you cant stand those things about yourself- why should you expect other people to love them? Start fixing those negatives until they become a positive!
Spend some time getting to know yourself. You'll be surprised how cool you really are! And trust me, before you know it- you'll be able to rattle off a list of all the great things about you without thinking about it. Because I know that I can think of a million things I like about you-- so you should think about the million things that you like about you too!
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